Digging through the literature: Best New Baby Books (and available at your library!)

When I first thought about getting pregnant, I did what my nerd brain naturally gravitated toward: I went to the library and checked out a pile of books on every aspect of the topic.

Your local library can be a wealth of resources for your family. Plus, who doesn't love the smell of a good book?

Your local library can be a wealth of resources for your family. Plus, who doesn't love the smell of a good book?


I sifted through the old standby classics like What to Expect When You’re Expecting by Heidi Murkoff, some humorous ones like Belly Laughs by Jenny McCarthy or Girlfriends Guide to Pregnancy. Some I found really informative, others super dry, and a few became favorites.


As the years have passed, I was turned on to some great books by my doula while I was preparing for birth. Others I have come across during my training with Birth Arts International. I’m always dissecting birth and pregnancy books.

Is the language accessible and not just medical jargon? Is it up to date with evidence based practices? Which clients or friends will appreciate this particular book?


Know better, do better. 

Know better, do better. 

I’ve gathered my top 3 favorite birth and pregnancy books. The bonus: they are available for free at your local library! If it’s not available for some reason, ask your librarian. Often a book title can be requested from another library or they’ll purchase it for you. If you have a favorite birth book, consider donating a copy to your local library. It’s great to have a collection of birth literature available in your community.

1)The Mama Natural Week by Week Guide to Pregnancy and Childbirth by Genevieve Howland

Written by YouTuber and natural parenting blogger,  Genevieve Howland, this comprehensive book covers all aspects of fertility, pregnancy, and birth. It covers all the options with prenatal testing, providers, birthing locations, etc. Having these options laid out is the definition of informed consent, and can help with decision making. It offers great natural options and nutrition options without seeming too far out there. (I can honestly say that on a personal level, I laugh when I see tofu in a pregnancy nutrition book. Not happening. Pass me that giant bowl of pasta please.) 

This is my favorite new pregnancy book. It's modern, it's accessible, and it gives a fresh take on birth. Have your support, know your options, and have the best birth you can that day. 

2) nurture: A Modern Guide to Pregnancy, Birth, Early Motherhood- and Trusting Yourself and Your Body by Erica Chidi Cohen. 

Author Erica Chidi Cohen brings a new voice to the pregnancy and birth literature choir. Writing from the perspective of a birth and postpartum doula, she brings a compassionate conversation to the reader instead of the usual lecture you feel like you're getting (eat right, get your finances and all the things done, be happy, etc.). 

The book takes a deep dive into the emotions surrounding pregnancy and birth, and offers beautifully realistic ways of handling them. She has a strong focus on self care and mindfulness that often gets overlooked. It hits the full spectrum of care that's needed for mamas and families right on the head. 

Best part of this book: more than a third of nurture is dedicated to postpartum care of mom. Postpartum care often gets the short end of the stick. The focus is on labor and newborn care, often not bringing attention to the fact that moms get put through the ringer with birth. Moms need more than just a primer on how to use a peri bottle and nursing. Cohen helps to plan your household, and gives tips for healing and bonding with baby without chaos, but with a lot more grace. 

3) The Whole 9 Months: A Week-by-Week Pregnancy Nutrition Guide with Recipes for a Healthy Start by Jennifer Lang, MD. 

If you were like me during pregnancy, you spent the first several months trying decide what would stay down, or at least not be brutal if it came back up. It's survival mode. This title tackles the nutrition behind feeling better during those early weeks, and how to eat for wellness for the remainder of your pregnancy. 

Lang breaks down what to look for in a prenatal vitamin, as well as eating to tackle pregnancy issues (hello constipation) and alternatives for crazy pregnancy cravings. 

The best part are the recipes included in the book. They're easy, delicious and healthy, and several can be made while having a screaming toddler at your feet. I love a realistic take on nutrition! 

What was your favorite book when you were preparing for pregnancy and birth? Share with us below! 



Local Spotlight: Pin It Up Acupuncture with Hannah Wood Sykes

Sometimes you meet a new friend, share a deep love of Outlander, and you find out she has a really cool business! Meet Hannah of Pin It Up Acupuncture! 

Hannah is a local business owner, and mother of two. She's located in Sykesville, MD. 

Hannah is a local business owner, and mother of two. She's located in Sykesville, MD. 

How did you discover acupuncture?

I had a horse that was rearing. It was getting dangerous. I spent a year trying to figure out why and how to help him. I knew he was in pain but that was it.

A friend’s horse, that was a lunatic, was calm one day. I asked what she did, and her reply was Acupuncture. I snarfed at it, but I had tried everything else. We tried it for 6 weeks. In the middle of a New England winter. Horse was clipped and standing in cross ties. After the first needle his head dropped so low I had to pull off the ties. His head was between his knees, eyes closed, lip flapping open, and drooling by the end of it.

I figure that was not a placebo reaction and there must be something to this.

Fast forward to college, I’m planning to major in theoretical physics, but quickly figured out I would not want to work in a lab of any kind.

So I google practical application for quantum physics and acupuncture came up.

Further research and it seemed like the best of both worlds. Ground breaking research that has centuries behind it and so much to do to explain why it works; I would have a large variety of work to choose from as the field expands.

Plus it combined 2 things I liked to do: help people, and work with theoretical physics.

So now I’m licensed to treat people and animals and really enjoying it.


What benefits can you expect from an acupuncture session?

Acupuncture is really  phenomenal. Short answer is it does everything. More generalized answer is you will feel much calmer and serene after a treatment. You will be able to focus better and see things more clearly.

Acupuncture is just a tool used to remind your body how to be well. If there is a place where things are getting stuck, the acupuncturist will diagnosis through a series of tools we use, and the pins will go in to coax the body into its intended rhythm rather
than its upset one.

Stress can manifest itself as physical pain. Like migraines. Acupuncture will address the need for the energy, also called qi, to move, while I will help draw attention to things that could be causing the stress as well as ways to maintain your body post acupuncture.

How can acupuncture help during pregnancy? Labor?

Acupuncture is great for conception. So far I have 100% success rate for women wanting to get pregnant. And all of them had either been struggling with it or already doing alternative methods to conceive.

During pregnancy regular acupuncture treatments can ease morning sickness, back pain, knee pain and it can help with that strange mind fog that sets in.

Regular treatments can also help ease hormone spikes that can cause some crazy out bursts of emotions.

Acupuncture can also help turn a breech baby without being invasive. It’s all kind of amazing!

Pregnancy during labor was the best. I used 2mm long pins on adhesive tape and applied them to points used to induce labor. I had my water break early. We kept him in a few weeks longer, then on week 34 we planned to deliver. So I set myself up the night before, and when morning came I was 3cm dilated but 10am. He was out by 12:15 with only 15 minutes of that being active labor.

These pins also help to allow the sinews to stretch during birth and cause far less pain. I had him naturally, but he was also quite small

Where can we find you for a session?
I’m located at Coreworks in Columbia, as well as Merritt Athletic Club in Eldersburg. You can check our weekly schedule at

 I’m a member of Sykesville Wellness Group, and will be helping people to navigate to their needed wellness provider. You can find us at the Sykesville Farmers Market. 

You can follow Hannah on Facebook at 






Holy Moly Where Has the Time Gone: A recap of 2017 and what's coming up for 2018

Hey friends! It's been several months since I've been able to update the blog with a new post, but it's been for some of the coolest reasons. October was the start of a very busy season for my doula business. I was honored to serve at several births in October and November, as well as represent Doulas of Central Maryland at the Frederick Birth and Baby Fair, teaching at newborn care workshops, and beginning to design a postpartum planning workshop (you guys know how much I care about the postpartum period, it's a doozy that needs way more attention than we give it.) 

While on call, my phone is always in hand. Especially at night!

While on call, my phone is always in hand. Especially at night!

It was a great season with a few, "Jesus Take the Wheel," moments. I learned something new at each birth, and was really stretched at some moments. So much growth happens in hard moments, and it reminds me why I LOVE this work so much. 

So back to why there hasn't been a post in three months. I typically do all my blogging late at night after my kids and husband are asleep. It means I get blissful uninterrupted silence, but I stay up well past midnight to get it done. Staying up so late while being on call for my families just wasn't smart. I needed to get proper sleep at night, be present for my kids during the day, and let some aspects of work take the back burner for a bit. 

Now I am back and ready for the new year! I wanted to recap what I learned this year, some changes, and what's going to happen for 2018. 

Earlier this year I injured my stomach, and got a crash course in Diastasis Recti, pelvic floor issues, and the red tape that goes along with insurance and some care providers, There are tons of resources out there friends! Don't get discouraged and keep looking for help! I can now share that my DR is down to a one finger gap, and I'll be seeking out pelvic floor therapy later in the season. I'll be writing about the experience, so you guys get all the information on it. Because no one should deal with peeing when they sneeze, painful sex, or just plain pelvic pain. 

Sleeping more has been a priority. Can't take care of mamas if my eyes can't stay open. 

Sleeping more has been a priority. Can't take care of mamas if my eyes can't stay open. 

I also signed as a contractor with Deborah Bailey's doula agency, Doulas of Central Maryland (check us out here: Having a team behind me, has given new life to my doula practice. The wisdom, support, and back up of these three women have helped me to hone my skills. So what does this mean for clients coming to Living Heart Doula? You can still have me as your doula with all my support, but with the agency we can offer you more services including placenta encapsulation, belly binding, photography, and postpartum doula support. 

For the coming year, I am looking at the ways I can serve my readers and clients better. I will be adding an email newsletter to share more information, new blog posts, and find new products and services that serve pregnancy and parenting. I love the local businesses in our area, and want to share their offerings with you guys. (Who doesn't love awesome service with a friendly discount!) In these newsletters, I may  be polling and asking for feedback. What services are you looking for? What would you like from your doula services (aromatherapy vs massage)?

I am hoping to design and host more workshops this year. Postpartum planning is near and dear to my heart, so that is my starting focus for the new year.

I want to do lots and lots of blogging.  

Most of all, I want to serve my growing families and support their births. Loving on families and babies is the best. 

So tell me friends, what do you want to see from LHD this year? What are  you learning about? What are your plans for 2018? 






Diastasis Challenge Update

For the month of September I attempted a 30 day exercise challenge to heal my diastasis recti. I generally stink at making exercise a priority in my day, and thought the challenge would be a good way to start making it a daily habit. The exercises were gentle, and slowly built up in number of repetitions.


Most days I did them as soon as I got up in the morning, and I literally got it out of the way in a matter of minutes. Some days I needed to handle something with the kids, and put it off until bed time. A few times I forgot until I was climbing into bed. I got down on the floor and got it done!


About halfway through the challenge my belly started hurting. Not in a way that was telling me I was just exercising muscles that hadn’t worked in a while, but that something was still strained.


I’m back to the drawing board. Healing doesn’t happen overnight, as much as I’d like to will my body to. For now, I’m working on posture, walking and hiking more. When I can I’m doing low rep gentle exercises for the pelvic floor and transverse abdominal. Some of these include heal slides, toe taps, and bridges.


The former 20-something gym rat in me is rolling her eyes. But in reality, this body is not the same.

One step at a time. 

One step at a time. 


I’m treating it gently this time around.


What are your goals? How do you heal, patiently?



When Postpartum Recovery is Hard: 4 Ways to Get Healing Back on Track

Postpartum is one of the hardest periods of life in my opinion. My body felt like I had been hit by a truck, I had stitches in tender places, and I hadn’t slept in days (sleeping in the hospital was impossible for me). 

I felt so depleted. The tears flowed easily as I tried to figure out my newborn, motherhood, and healing. 

Sometimes we begin to heal and experience set backs, like new bleeding, mastitis, and depression. 

What can we do when recovery is hard and overwhelming?


1)      Get in bed. And stay there.

One of our biggest issues with postpartum healing is doing too much too soon. We do chores, lift toddlers, or entertain well meaning guests. The best thing you could do is get into bed with baby, nurse, and sleep. Have your partner bring food, take away dishes, and maintain the household outside of your bedroom. 

Keep supplies for baby, as well as yourself (think nursing pads, medications, tissues, diapers, wipes, and onesies. A waste basket can be kept handy. Set up Netflix or your favorite book series on kindle. If you feel the need to leave your room, go lay on the couch. 

Keep in mind you have a 9” wound in your uterus from where your placenta detached. That's the size of a dinner plate. If you had a visible wound that size, you wouldn’t be vacuuming. Some births may have been by cesarean, causing even further healing time. Be gentle on yourself!

Stay horizontal, and rest. Your uterus with thank you. 

Stay horizontal, and rest. Your uterus with thank you. 

2)      Stay hydrated and nourished. 

When our hands are full juggling a baby and all their needs, we can neglect common things like feeding ourselves and making sure we are drinking fluids. 

Once partners return to work and moms are alone with baby, we can quickly bypass our own needs to our detriment. 

With my first daughter, I’d get stuck underneath her, either nursing or napping, for hours. I remember days I wouldn’t get breakfast until 3pm. I’d make myself a massive plate and inhale it. Skipping meals and not getting enough fluids not only makes you feel awful, but can negatively affect milk supply. 

Keep water bottles and easy open snacks all around the house, but especially in your main resting area.

Eat and drink, Repeat. You need fuel for healing and making milk. 

Eat and drink, Repeat. You need fuel for healing and making milk. 


3)      Check in with your care provider.

After your baby is born, your next appointment isn’t for six weeks.  The postpartum check up is sorely lacking. It’s usually a wam-bam-your-cervix-is-closed-you’re-healed-you-can-have-sex-now appointment. Take time with your provider to really address your healing. As consumers, we should be demanding more. 

If you’re having abnormal bleeding, clots larger than a golf ball, or you are not feeling well physically or emotionally, check in with your provider. Don’t feel you have to suffer until your six week check up. 


          4)      Ask for help.

This may be the most difficult. Sometimes we don’t have family nearby. Friends offer to help with the usual,” Let me know if you need anything.”

Sometimes we aren’t even sure what we need to begin with, or we feel guilty asking. There’s the looming pressure to know what we are doing, and to be able to handle it all. 

Yet we see, hear and read about the need for, “the village,” that our current generation is lacking. For the village to exist, we must start utilizing what support system we have. This may mean sharing our vulnerabilities with friends, reaching out to strangers on Facebook groups, or joining the next Le Leche League meeting. 

Take this time for yourself and your family. You don't have to do it all, and you shouldn't. 

Take this time for yourself and your family. You don't have to do it all, and you shouldn't. 

Ask for meals to be brought. For someone to walk the dog. Ask friends to take an older sibling to the park to play. If someone comes to visit, ask them to bring some extra witch hazel. 

It’s okay to need help. Set aside any expectations that don’t include healing and bonding with your new baby.


What helped during your postpartum healing? What would you have done differently? Share your stories with us in the comments. 

















Cloth Diapers: Where to start, what to try

When I was pregnant with my first daughter, my doula introduced us to cloth diapering. She had shown us some varieties, and explained how it could save us financially in the long run. Money was tight, and was about to become tighter once I left my job to stay home. I added a bunch of varieties of cloth diapers to our registry, and dove in with the help of the internet and a local natural baby store.


Four years later, and I’m still cloth diapering with my second daughter. I’ve learned a lot over the years!


Here’s how to get started and some pointers on how to care for your diapers.


1)      There are tons of varieties to choose from

When it comes to cloth diapers everyone thinks of flats and baby pins with rubber pants. 

These days you still have prefolds and flats, but you can use a dandy little contraption called a snappy to hold it in place. No more poking fingers or babies. In place of rubber pants, there are snapping or Velcro covers made of PUL (polyurethane laminate) to protect from leaks. 

Next up are pocket diapers. These go on just like a typical diaper (no folding involved like a prefold), but include snaps or Velcro closures. The PUL makes up majority of the diaper with cotton or minky in the center. The back of the diaper has an opening to stuff in inserts for absorbency, and can be varied. Inserts can be made of various material, including cotton, hemp, or bamboo. These come in cute patterns, and can be bought in a variety of sizes or adjustable fit. 

All-in-ones go on like a regular diaper, no folding or stuffing. Use, wash, repeat. They are probably the easiest to use, but are a more expensive option for your stash compared to prefolds. 


2)      How do I pick? Which kind will work for us?

This is the hardest part. My advice is to try a few of each kind, and see what works for you and your baby. 

I like that flats and prefolds are economical, easy to stash and strip, and I only need a few covers to diaper full time. Pockets have cute prints and are easier for my husband or babysitter to put on. All-in-ones are easy, but I find they were difficult to strip over time (more on stripping later). 

Usually we used prefolds for newborn stage, and pockets going forward into infancy.

The best thing about cloth diapers is that they resale really well when taken care of. You can buy lightly used diapers to see if they work for your little one. If they don’t work out? You can sell them, and move on to the next variety.


3)      How do I care for my diapers?

There is a learning curve at the beginning with cloth diapers, but then it’s just as easy as doing an extra load of laundry every few days once you get the hang of it.


Some things you’ll need:

Trash can with a lid/diaper pail

Large and medium size wet bag

Wet bags are great for traveling, and can continue to be used even when you're done diapering. I love them for swim suits or clothing storage in the car. 

Wet bags are great for traveling, and can continue to be used even when you're done diapering. I love them for swim suits or clothing storage in the car. 

Cloth safe detergent (no dyes, no fragrances, etc. I recommend Charlie’s or Country Save)

Do not use commercial diaper rash  creams while baby is in a cloth diaper! This will cause build up in diapers, causing them to stink and become water repellent (causing tons of leaks). If you need to use a cream, make sure you use a liner. It can be cloth or disposable, but puts a barrier between the diaper and cream.

 Whenever possible dry your diapers in the sun, laying flat. This will protect the elastic, and sunshine helps to remove stains. If you ever need to use your drier, follow the drying directions for your brand of diaper. Some are fine to put in the drier with heat, but others will wind up with cracks in the PUL, ruining your diapers. 

When diapers become soiled put them in the diaper pail or wet bag if you are away from home. If baby is eating solids, you’ll need to rinse off any poop into the toilet. I suggest using a diaper sprayer. It easily attaches to the water line of your toilet, and can double as a cold water bidet. 

Washing routines will vary, depending on your washer. I use a top loader. We do a hot wash cycle, followed by a cold wash cycle with detergent. We finish up with two extra rinses. It’s important to get all the detergent out of your diapers to avoid build up. 

I always use the maximum amount of water I can for each load of diapers. Even if the diapers only fill the washing machine halfway, I still use the, “High” setting. Having enough water for your diapers to tumble in and rinse through will ensure they get properly cleaned.


4)      When to strip your diapers

Stripping diapers refers to removing excess build up of minerals or detergent. If your diapers have a strong ammonia smell, are causing rashes, or are leaking, it may be time to strip your diapers. These issues are caused by hard water, too much detergent, and often just regular use.


There are several ways to strip diapers depending on what kind you have:

Flats/prefolds: boil in a large pot on the stove top, usually about 10 minutes. Dry in the sunshine.

Pockets: can be stripped by washing with blue Dawn in a sink or washing machine. In a washing machine you don’t want to add more than a tablespoon or two of blue Dawn to wash a cycle. You can guess what the agitator would do with that many bubbles.


For all diapers you can use commercial stripping agents like RLR or Grovia Mighty Bubbles Laundry Treatment. You simply put the powder over clean wet diapers in the wash cycle. A few extra rinses and your cloth diapers are stripped. This is my preferred method, unless I’m storing my diapers for long term, then I opt for boiling or sunning.


Lay diapers flat to dry on a laundry rack, over the shower rod, or an a sheet on the lawn in the sun (I’m sure my HOA loves me). Laying them flat versus hanging by the ends prevents the water weight from pulling the elastic of the diaper. The pulling will lead to the elastic wearing out, causing leaks and shortening the lifespan of your diapers.

Sunning your diapers is great for stains and any odors. However, do not hang them like this. Your elastic will be shot after a few times, and you'll be spending time and money to have your diapers repaired. 

Sunning your diapers is great for stains and any odors. However, do not hang them like this. Your elastic will be shot after a few times, and you'll be spending time and money to have your diapers repaired. 


Do you have any cloth diaper questions? Concerns?











Diastasis Recti: Things to try and Resources

So back in March I had strained my stomach muscles while carrying in my daughter from the car. I had ignored my diastasis recti (DR, separation of abdominal muscles) and weakened core muscles from my pregnancies, and paid the price.


That injury set me back a lot. I couldn’t baby wear my toddler. I had difficulty cleaning my house, specifically vacuuming. I had to slow down physically which is extremely difficult for me. (Please don’t make me ask for help!)

Nope, I'm good really. I got it...

Nope, I'm good really. I got it...


I had started looking online for help when my care provider couldn’t offer me any answers. Here are my three favorites:

·         Sarah Elis Duvall of

She has great workout programs and free workshops with in-depth information. Her newsletters have great tips on postures and simple solutions to build up your pelvic floor and core strength.


·         Beyond fit mom ( has several blogs and workouts geared towards correcting DR. Also included is information on pelvic floor issues, because unfortunately the two can go hand in hand. If the pelvic floor is weak you need to take extra care in building that first. The site includes a 30 day diastasis recti challenge to help kickstart healing. You can find it here:

·         Diastasis Recti: The Whole -Body Solution to Abdominal Weakness and Separation by Katy Bowman.

Written by a biomechanist, this book gives great insight into how the body develops DR, and how we can heal from this condition without surgery and spot treatments. By correcting our misalignments, changing how we move, and exercises specific for correcting a host of issues alongside DR (weak pelvic floor, lower back pain, hip flexor tightness, etc.).



Initially after my injury I began wearing a belly support band. It seemed to help with posture and keeping my core engaged. However, it was constantly rising, shifting around, and being generally a nuisance to wear. I wore it faithfully for a month, before relegating it to only when I was doing something strenuous like vacuuming (it’s so sad for me to type this) or days where I was picking up and holding my toddler alot. I had to ease back into my normal activities, and often I was sore afterwards.


Whenever I had over exerted myself or was just having an extra painful day, I treated myself with arnica (topically and internally) and lemongrass essential oil. Arnica is a homeopathic medicine for trauma, bruising, and swelling. Lemongrass essential oil is known for helping with inflamed tendons. I also would ice my stomach or take ibuprofen on rough days.


I have had to learn my new limits with this injury, and go slow with my recovery.


I returned to somewhat normal functionality around five months later. I can now haul my vacuum up and down the stairs without being in pain.


My gap was close to three fingers, and is now reduced to two. I think posture, belly breathing, and the belly band has been the start to healing my DR. I struggle with making exercise a priority, and am hoping to correct that.

Definitely not me. I'd be in pain. And probably on the side of the road catching my breath. A girl can dream though right? She looks so calm. She's owning this road. I need to own my body again. 

Definitely not me. I'd be in pain. And probably on the side of the road catching my breath. A girl can dream though right? She looks so calm. She's owning this road. I need to own my body again. 


 I will be completing the 30-day challenge from Beyond Fit Mom starting September 1. I’m hoping that having a short daily regimen will help me get into a routine. I’ll keep you posted!


Are you healing postpartum? Share with us!




Upside down: Breech birth and the rabbit hole that is informed consent

Recently a friend shared her awesome birth story with me, and graciously allowed me to post it to the blog. Her baby was breech, and she was facing an unwanted cesarean. In the end, she had an experienced provider and a fast labor that allowed her to birth vaginally.

The thing is, the story is so exceptional. These days it's difficult to find a provider experienced and willing to deliver a breech vaginally. Why? In looking for research, I couldn't count the number of resources that kept saying it's too dangerous. But why is it dangerous? I found even fewer resources who were willing to spell out the risks.

Cesarean sections are life saving and can be necessary for breech babies. But when do they take the place of attempting vaginally? What are the options?

Cesarean sections are life saving and can be necessary for breech babies. But when do they take the place of attempting vaginally? What are the options?

If you cannot find all the facts to educate yourself on a major decision for your birth, are you really getting to make that decision at all? Is it really informed consent? Or has your provider made the decision for you? Have the insurance companies hamstrung our care?

In my last pregnancy, my daughter was breech at 37 weeks, and my OB was skeptical of her turning. (You can read her birth story and how she was turned by scrolling below.) When I asked why breech delivery was such a big deal, my doctor replied, "We used to do this all the time. What's changed is how insurance covers us as practitioners, hospital policies, and how we view these types of births."

So where do you go to find the full scope of information on breech birth? I've compiled a list of resources for you!

1) American Congress of Obstetricians and Gynecologists (                                               When in doubt, go to the source of the entity that creates guidelines for OBGYN providers. While we are seeing a large gap in what is recommended and what is practiced, this will help you discuss directly with your provider. It gives guidelines for when a vaginal breech can be attempted, or indicators for when a cesarean may be necessary. (

2) Coalition for Breech Birth (                                                                                         Both the website and Facebook group are a wealth of resources, including a depth of published research studies and resource links for everything from breech birth videos, turning a breech baby, and chiropractic care. 

3) Spinning Babies (                                                                                                Founder Gail Tully discusses physiological components that can attribute to a breech birth and the means of correction. She also fully explains the risks with breech birth, and when cesarean may be more appropriate. The issue of providers being able to keep hands off the breech baby as its born, or not being skilled enough in the case of a trapped head or nuchal arms, is what seems to be the biggest risk. It's not so much the presentation of baby, but the loss of education in handling emergencies.

4) Ina May Gaskin                                                                                                                                      I love Ina May Gaskin. Her books are a wealth of knowledge for midwifery, birth and the art of birth stories. She wrote an article for Peggy O'Mara's website, focused on natural living, mothering, and social justice. Ina May expands on the history of the policies regarding breech birth, as well as the changes in provider skills and care. It's a great read, and you can find it here: ( 


Know your options. Have a supportive and experienced team. Have the best birth you can. 

Know your options. Have a supportive and experienced team. Have the best birth you can. 

These are my top four resources when researching breech birth. These four will keep you reading and falling down the rabbit hole like I have for the last month. When there is so much information to consider, take your time and have open conversation with your care provider. Finding all the facts is just one aspect of informed consent, but may the most important. 

Do you have another resource to share? Was your baby breech? 




Jacob's Birth Story: A fast breech vaginal birth

Before I begin my most recent birth story, I need to give some background information about myself. I am a Neonatal Nurse Practitioner and work at the same hospital that I receive my OB care; therefore, I have a close professional relationship with my OB providers. I also have a uterine anomaly called a bicornuate uterus. This means that my uterus is divided into two sections. This was discovered at my 13 week nuchal transluceny ultrasound with my first pregnancy. The complications associated with this anomaly are cervical insufficiency, preterm labor, preterm delivery, growth restriction, and breech presentation. The risk of breech presentation is due to the limited space for the baby to turn. Because of this anomaly, I was followed very closely by the high risk OB and had approximately 13 ultrasounds with my first pregnancy. My son was born by vaginal delivery after spontaneous labor at 37 weeks and 2 days. At every ultrasound he was head down.

With my second pregnancy, my son was in breech presentation at every ultrasound. I really became concerned about this around 26-28 weeks, given the limited uterine space and that my first son was always head down and this time my son was always breech. Everyone (both medical and non-medical) tried to reassure me that “there’s plenty of time for him to flip.” It was at this point that I began my research on getting a baby to turn. I googled, youtubed, and read a lot of articles and blogs. I tried anything and everything to get my baby to turn, with no avail. At 34 weeks I had a discussion with my OB about attempting an external cephalic version (ECV); however, I am not a candidate for this procedure given my uterine anomaly. It finally started to sink in that I was going to have a c-section. My OB decided not to schedule me for a c-section, rather we would wait until I went into labor in order to give me every opportunity for the baby to flip.

Breech presentations include:

  • Frank Breech (Bottom down, feet are up by the head)
  • Footling breech (One or both feet are by down)
  • Complete breech (Bottom is down and legs are crossed. Imagine baby sitting Indian style.)

During a casual conversation one day at work with the high risk OB director, I expressed my concern for having a c-section and how much I did not want to have one. He agreed that I was not a candidate for an ECV and what I thought was jokingly, he said,“Well you could always do a breech vaginal, the only problem is I would have to be at your delivery, and that might be uncomfortable for you.” My response was that I would not have a breech vaginal because of the risks associated with it. That was the extent of our conversation. I did not have any conversation with my primary OB about a breech vaginal delivery.

So what are the risks with breech birth?
- Placenta being compressed
- Head getting stuck
- Some incidence of large limb fractures
Biggest issue currently is finding a provider who is experienced and educated in delivering a breech!

At 37 weeks I went to my routine OB appointment, and again had a discussion with my OB about a C-section, and again expressed my feelings and anxiety about it. She was very empathetic, but tried to reassure me that it wouldn’t be as bad as I thought and also gently brought me to reality that this baby would most likely not flip at this point. I was 1 cm dilated and 50% effaced at this appointment and not having any significant contractions.

The next morning, at 37 weeks and 1 day, I woke up with some intermittent cramping back pain. It wasn’t very painful, but it was certainly noticeable. Shortly thereafter I began to have some lower abdominal cramping similar to that of a period. I didn’t time the cramping but thought something might be happening given that it was intermittent and not a consistent discomfort. At this point I didn’t want to call my OB, because I knew she would want me to come in right away given the breech presentation and I didn’t want to have my husband come home from work and call my childcare if this wasn’t, “the real thing.” But, I did get my (almost) 2 year old set up with breakfast and hopped in the shower, did my hair and makeup, and got myself all ready “just in case” this was it. I packed the car with our bags before heading out with my son. Throughout the pregnancy I constantly thought about the, “last day” that it would be just, “us.” My son loves ice cream, so I wanted to take him out on an ice cream date. We got to the ice cream parlor a little before noon just to find out they didn’t open until noon. We went next door to the grocery store to kill a little time. By this point the cramping was occurring more frequently, but not necessarily with more intensity. I stopped in the bathroom on our way out and that’s when I had my bloody mucousy show. It finally sunk in at that time that I was in early labor. We got our ice cream and I just sat and enjoyed those last minutes with my son before my attention was going to have to be shared.

Megan the morning of Jacob's birth.

Megan the morning of Jacob's birth.

We got out to the car around 12:15 and I called my OB to report my symptoms. As I expected, she told me to come to the hospital to get evaluated. I called my husband who was working an hour away and my sister who was going to watch my son. By the time my husband got home and we got out the door it was around 1:30. We weren’t in the car more than 5 minutes when the intensity of my contractions increased and I was unable to talk during them. The ride to where we were meeting my sister was about 25 minutes. Just as we pulled up my water broke. I called my OB again to give her an update and that we were about 20 minutes away. By the time we arrived to the hospital I could barely think or talk due to the pain of the contractions which were now about a minute apart.

I was immediately taken into a room (the PACU was full) and my OB checked me and said I was 6 cms. There were so many medical professionals in my room working diligently to get me prepared for my c-section since I had progressed into labor so quickly and was continuing to have very strong contractions every minute. That was when my OB told me that the hospitalist was on service and she has experience with breech vaginal deliveries and asked if that was something I wanted to consider. I could barely focus on her words so she decided to get me my epidural and get me comfortable before we had any further conversation. As soon as I got my epidural she checked me again and I was 9 cms (that was about 30 minutes after the first time she checked me). I had to make my decision very quickly after having a brief but serious conversation with the hospitalist. I knew in my heart that this was the right decision for me. My husband was against it, but said he trusted me and my OB and knew that I was very aware of the risks associated with this type of delivery given my medical background.

So we moved into the OR, which is where I had to deliver in case they had to do an emergency c-section. As was explained to me before making my decision, I labored down for about an hour before I started pushing in order for the baby to optimally move into the birth canal vs pushing him into position. I pushed for 18 minutes until I heard the most beautiful sound in the world which was that of my baby crying. He was placed skin to skin with me and I just cried tears of joy and relief. He weighed exactly the same as my first son, which was 6 lbs 13 oz. I had no tears and felt so wonderful during my recovery. Every day I thought about how different my recovery would have been if I had a c-section.

On the way to the hospital when I was contracting so painfully I thought to myself, “Why did I wait so long to call my OB? I should have called this morning! This pain is so unbearable I could have avoided this if I hadn’t waited!” Afterwards, I was so thankful that I did wait to call, because my delivery experience would have been so different. Everything happened to just fall into place to make this all possible. The OB that I had such extensive conversations with was on service at the hospital so she knew my anxiety about having a c-section, the hospitalist who will do the breech vaginal delivery was on service, I was in spontaneous labor with contractions every minute with very fast cervical dilation, and my baby was tolerating the labor. Had any one of these factors been missing or different, I would have had a c-section. I absolutely love my birth story and I hope you enjoyed reading it!

Jacob meets his big brother.

Jacob meets his big brother.





So What's a Doula? Answers to the top three questions about birth work

Often when someone hears that I am a doula, the first questions about my field are:

Is that like a midwife?

That's for home births, right?

But then what does the dad do?


Let me address these questions, then I'll share exactly what a doula does for her clients.


Is that like a midwife?

Nope. A midwife is a medical professional that oversees your and baby's medical care through pregnancy and birth. Midwives are typically low intervention, and are great advocates for natural birth. A midwife can practice in a hospital, birthing center, or private home birth practice depending on the state.

Midwife checking on baby. Midwives can serve births at hospitals, birth centers, and at home. If you are having a low risk, healthy pregnancy, midwifery care may be for you.

Midwife checking on baby. Midwives can serve births at hospitals, birth centers, and at home. If you are having a low risk, healthy pregnancy, midwifery care may be for you.


A doula does not dispense medical advice, and it's out of their scope of practice to perform any medical procedures (temperature, cervical checks, manually feeling your belly for fetal position, etc.) Instead, a doula is a wealth of resources and knowledge. If you are faced with a procedure during your pregnancy and you are unsure of your options, a doula can help you to research the procedure and suggest questions to bring to your provider. We don't want to make decisions for you, but help to empower you in your decisions. We offer resources and support both prenatally and during birth.


When you begin to labor, you can call your doula to be with you whenever you want her. A doula can help you to labor at home longer and more comfortably (A well trained doula knows the signs in labor to transfer to the birthing location. However, whenever mama wants to go, is when we head in. We can also make transferring more comfortable too!) We are equipped with birth balls, rebozos, essential oils, and massage techniques. We can help with positioning, counter pressure for back labor, grabbing snacks, and making suggestions for other coping strategies. We are also there to support you emotionally, and can help with any mental blocks. Labor can be a crazy, emotional, messy time, and we are there to protect that space and see you through it. I reassure clients that she can release on me in a way that maybe she couldn’t with her mother-in-law around.

Airlia is sitting on the birth ball while I help keep heat and pressure on her lower back. Even while being monitored, there are ways to keep moms comfortable and not just in bed.

Airlia is sitting on the birth ball while I help keep heat and pressure on her lower back. Even while being monitored, there are ways to keep moms comfortable and not just in bed.


A midwife will usually come as you are heading in to active labor if you are birthing at home. If you are at a hospital or birthing center, they will be around to check in with you, but won’t likely be with you the entire time. They will be with you during pushing, and can aide with protecting your perineum with stretching or counter pressure. Your midwife is the other half of the equation to your birth team.  Midwife + doula + partner = Fully Supported Mama


That’s for home births, right?

You may be hearing about doulas from your crunchier mamas. While I do support mamas that choose to birth at home, I also happily support families that birth at the hospital or birthing center. If you are planning a natural birth, opting for medication, or scheduled cesarean, I fully support you in your best birth. That looks different to different families, and no mama is the same in what she needs to birth with confidence. What matters to me is that you have options, and are fully supported in your choices.


But then what does the Dad do?

Doulas do not replace partners. Dads, partners, and other support people all have a role to play in supporting the mama. As a doula, I care about their needs as well. I can offer tons of support to Dad who may be nervous about how the labor is progressing, and pull him in with tips on how to offer counter pressure on a sore back, show him how to use a rebozo on mama’s belly to help a posterior baby turn, and I can be the one running to reheating the rice pack so he can be with you. It’s a team effort, and I am here for both of you! 


Here’s the nitty gritty on what a doula does for you:

  •          Meets with you in the weeks before your due. Meetings are usually to go over any health issues, any problems from previous births, and any lingering anxieties or fears about the labor. This allows us to develop strategies to help you cope during labor, and to develop your birth plan. We want to get to know you, so we can better support you.
  •           Having your doula present can:

o   decrease pain

o    decrease the need for epidural or pain meds

o   Shorten labor

o   Improve parent-baby bonding

o   Lower rate of postpartum depression

o   Lower caesarian rate 


  • While we aren't birth photographers, we will happily snap photos and video of the birth if you'd like us to.
  •  Doulas can help with the first breastfeeding session, and can help support you in the early days as well. If you choose to bottle feed, we are happy to support you with that too!
  •  Once you are home from the hospital, your doula will check in with a postpartum visit. This visit is usually to go over the birth, discuss how you and baby are doing, and help with any issues you may be facing. Having a baby is life changing, and no one understands this more than your doula. Birth is beautiful, hard, emotional, transforming work.


So to recap, doulas offer non-medical support for birthing families, offering education and physical and emotional support through the birthing process. We support all kinds of birth, and can act as guide through the experience.


 I am honored I get to witness it. I am honored to serve the growing families in my community.




Self-Care: A Case for Taking Care of Mom

It was a Thursday, and everyone in my house woke up on the wrong side of the bed. My oldest was whining, the baby was throwing herself on the floor in epic fashion. I was just done. I wasn't about to try to muddle through the mess that day. I texted a friend and we made plans to head to the aquarium in Baltimore for the day. (We had a membership; a thoughtful present from the grandparents!)


Our escape plan turned our day around. No more tantrums. No more whining. Just fun with friends and fish.

When in doubt, get out of the house!

When in doubt, get out of the house!


Both girls fell asleep on the car ride home. I pulled up to our house and began to unload the car. I picked up my sleeping four-year-old, thinking, "How did this girl get so dang heavy?!" and didn't think anything of it. I laid her on the couch, and went back for her sister. The rest of our evening was normal.


And then I woke up the next morning with a painful and swollen stomach. What did I do?!


I had ignored a big problem, that's what I did. After my second baby was born, I was sure I had a wide diastasis recti (gap in the abdominal muscles, DR) and was very weak in my back and core. I would struggle to sit up from a laying position. Any abdominal muscle strength I had was gone. I had asked my OB to check my stomach at my six-week appointment, and all he could tell me was that I didn't have a hernia. No guidance on what to do for the gap in my muscles, regaining any strength in my core, and recovery for my pelvic floor.


I knew I needed to exercise. I needed to heal this body that was battered by my pregnancies. But where was the time? Kids had to come first. Then errands. Who else would clean our house? I needed to get work done towards certification. I was too tired by the time the kids were in bed.


 I continually added to the forever growing list of reasons to put off dealing with me.


Until I hurt myself.


I couldn’t pick up my 18-month old. I couldn’t vacuum. I needed to rest until I could get in to make sure I hadn’t given myself a hernia. I hid in my bedroom for the weekend and rested. It felt so odd, but so good. I hadn’t been sleeping well for months, and the extra rest paid dividends. I added some arnica and essential oils in to my recovery. Ordered an abdominal brace in the hopes it'd be helpful.

My four year old snapped this while playing on my phone. I was resting on the couch, and couldn't help clutching my stomach. I hurt. Badly.

My four year old snapped this while playing on my phone. I was resting on the couch, and couldn't help clutching my stomach. I hurt. Badly.


Jump ahead: two doctor visits and an ultrasound later there was no detectable hernia. But they also couldn’t tell me why I was in so much pain and why I looked 5 months pregnant.  I also couldn’t get in to the physical therapy I was hoping for unless I did more testing. The results would determine if I could get in or not. I may have normal test results, which would exclude me from the therapy, even with the issues I had. Dude, totally lame.


I have taken matters into my own capable hands, and started finding tons of moms like me who have healed their bodies. They are on YouTube with awesome videos for healing diastasis recti and strengthening weak pelvic floors. I do my best to get in gentle and DR safe yoga every day. Even if it means the kids are crawling on me and dishes are undone. It makes my inner OCD twitchy, but I must keep in mind that my self-care needs to be a priority. If I am broken and hurting, I cannot serve my family. If I am exhausted and run down, my family feels that too.

What you want exercise with your kids to be like...

What you want exercise with your kids to be like...

What exercise with your kids actually looks like. Blurry cell phone photo, messy living room, and I am attempting to do pelvic floor exercises with my kids around. Mom on the floor = jungle gym.

What exercise with your kids actually looks like. Blurry cell phone photo, messy living room, and I am attempting to do pelvic floor exercises with my kids around. Mom on the floor = jungle gym.

I have been neglecting my own care, and have been trying to rectify that, even beyond the injury. Even just keeping in mind things like, have you washed your face? Read a book? Used essential oils today? All things that keep me grounded and take care of the introvert in me.


I’ll be writing and sharing more about healing my belly in the weeks to come. How do you take care of you, while caring for others?




5 Ways to Cope with Morning Sickness: because no one enjoys nausea

When I became pregnant with my first daughter, I knew right away. Food tasted weird, and my usual go-to meals would give me heart burn or make me sick. Orange juice was the worst. It was years before I could drink it again without a mental connection to vomiting.


I had brutal morning sickness for almost six months of that pregnancy. I lost fifteen pounds and needed to go on medication for a while to be able to keep anything down. It made me nervous for my baby and about my nutrition.


I learned a lot from that pregnancy, and was much more educated and prepared for my second. When you know better, you do better. And in this case, you throw up less. Here are my five tips for feeling better when you are dealing with morning sickness:


1)      Eat!

It may seem counter-intuitive, but eating high protein mini meals will help keep the nausea at bay. When your stomach is empty is when the nausea is at its worst and will reek havoc when you do have your next meal.

Eat little nibbles constantly. A scrambled egg and piece of toast. A few apple slices and nut butter. Crackers and hummus. Trail mix.

Eat small meals around the clock.

Eat small meals around the clock.

Anything combining protein with some carbs will keep you going, and your blood sugar stabilized. This includes nighttime. Keep snacks on your night stand, and eat when you wake up to use the bathroom or adjust pillows.

Sharing my own personal truth here: eat what sounds good. Odds are if you actually crave that item, it’ll stay down. Even if it's Sour Patch Kids and McDonald's French fries. Do the best you can, but at the end of the day you need your food to stay down.


2)      Sea bands

Available at any drug store, these are bracelets with a small bead that applies acupressure to a specific point on the wrist. Used mainly for motion sickness, it did help take the edge off my nausea. However, if you are waiting to announce your pregnancy these are a dead give away.

3)      Essential oils

Oils are neatly packed power houses of help. The two to focus on are lemon and peppermint. Just smelling both kinds of oils will stop the nausea. When I was out running errands I'd put a few drops of peppermint oil on to a tissue, and kept it at the ready in my coat pocket. Lemon essential oil can be placed on the back of the neck and collar bone, using a carrier oil like coconut or almond. For a better explanation of how essential oils can help, check out Young Living Essential Oils ( ,

(I'm not an affiliate, but I like their oils and find the website to be a nice resource.)

4)      Magnesium

There's a lot I can say about magnesium and all of its benefits, but I'll try to limit myself for the sake of this post. It's very easy to become deficient in magnesium, especially when you're having a hard time eating already. By increasing your magnesium, you'll sleep better, decrease muscle aches, improve digestion and decrease your overall nausea. You can take magnesium orally with supplements like Mag Calm, but what's way cool is you can also increase consumption transdermally!  So if your worried that a supplement may not go down well, you can receive benefits by soaking in an epsom salt bath or making a magnesium lotion like this one:


5)      Ginger!

Candied ginger. Ginger ale. Ginger tea. Ginger snap cookies. Preggy Pops. However you want it, ginger is pretty well known for its ability to stabilize a rocky stomach. Keeping ginger snaps or ginger ale handy can also help when blood sugar is low, and nausea is at its worst.


If nothing is helping, don't hesitate to talk to your provider. In some cases medication is necessary. If you ever have questions regarding your health, supplements, etc. please contact your provider.


What helped you the most with morning sickness?




Baby Wearing: The Ins and Outs

When I was pregnant with my first baby, my doula and friend, Julie,  introduced me to baby wearing. She bought me a Boba as a shower gift, and let me borrow her Maya wrap. Baby wearing keeps your baby close to you, which is great for bonding, nursing, and generally surviving life with a baby. My babies would nap, nurse, enjoy the scenery as we walked the dog, and enjoy being, “held”, as I cleaned the house. Some days it was seriously how I managed to do anything!


I learned a lot about different carriers through the years, and through a lot of test runs have figured out what works for me and also for each individual child. Here's the skinny on each type of carrier, with some tips for each kind as well.

Ring sling: Made of large cloth swatches, secured with two metal, plastic, or bamboo rings.  These are great for fast in and out, and are great for hip carries. The only down side is you kind of feel like you need to keep a hand on baby, so you aren't totally hands free. It's much easier to use with an older baby that has head and neck control, but can still be used with a newborn. Slings have  a bit of a learning curve at first, and I needed help with getting started and fixing my sling when the fabric would get bunched.  

Ring Sling: Hip carries take the weight off of moms arms and core. 

Ring Sling: Hip carries take the weight off of moms arms and core. 


Soft structured carriers (Ergo, Boba, and Tula): Soft structured carriers (SSC) are generally easy to wear, adjust to almost all body types, and can be worn on the front or on the back as baby gets larger. These are great for baby naps, and allow your hands to be completely free. With a SSC you want to look for one with wide berth for hips; this prevents hip issues as baby grows and takes strain away from their back, unlike typical front facing carriers (bjorns). SSC can be used with newborns with special inserts depending on the brand. Ergo sells a newborn insert for their specific carrier, allowing it to be used from birth through toddler hood.


Soft wraps (Moby, K’tan): Best used during the early newborn weeks, wraps are soft and snuggly, and are great for naps, walks, etc. Your hands can be completely free, and with a little adjustment you can nurse while wrapped. It may take a few viewings on YouTube to get the wrapping right. A few styles of wrapping let you set up the wrap beforehand, so your wrap becomes an extra accessory. Bonus! The K’tan comes in different sizes. I'd suggest trying one out at your local natural baby store first.


Soft stretchy wraps work well up to 18 lbs, but are uncomfortable any heavier. Move onto a woven wrap or SSC after you're done with the Moby.

Moby Wrap: Front carries are cozy and can be pre-wrapped.

Moby Wrap: Front carries are cozy and can be pre-wrapped.


Woven wraps: These babies are the Cadillac of baby wearing. Super versatile, comfy for mom and baby. And. So. Beautiful! However, there's a catch. These wraps come with a hefty price tag, and there's a lot to learn about wrapping. My kids were always too wiggly and wanting up and down all the time for me to even be tempted to wrap. But by god, do I want one just because they are so stinking pretty!

Woven wrap: Lenny Lamb brand. Look how cool this is!

Woven wrap: Lenny Lamb brand. Look how cool this is!


 As with all the carriers, consider them an investment. They will last you through multiple children, and majority retain their resale value. If cost is prohibitive, buy used! (The straps will be soft and broken in.) Utilize your baby registry as well!


A few rules to remember when baby wearing:

1)      Chin is away from the chest. This ensures that the airway is open.

2)      Baby should be high enough that you can kiss the top of their head. Too low, baby could fall.

3)      Always keep buckles and straps done tightly. Wraps should always be secured with a double knot.

4)      Wait to wear baby on your back until they have good head and neck control.

Keep your babies close, and enjoy your carrier!



A Postpartum Checklist: Planning Ahead for a Better Recovery

There's a thing about birth that other moms don't tell you about. Recovery can be hard. You're sore and possibly torn in your most sensitive spots, your organs are rearranging themselves after pregnancy, and odds are pretty good that you haven't had more than a few hours sleep at a time for days. Not to mention nursing, trying to maintain your household and take care of any older siblings too. This period can be really hard, and we don't always have family and friends around to help out.

Planning and preparing for post postpartum in the last months of pregnancy can make a huge difference in the time spent resting and healing versus stressing over the to do list.

Here are my favorite tips:


  • Stock your freezer with extra meals that can be thrown in the crock pot or oven. (Ask friends to set up a meal train or have people bring freezer meals as a part of your baby shower!)
  • Stock snacks that are shelf stable and nutritious. (Trail mix, protein bars, granola bars, muffins.) Bonus points if it can be eaten with one hand.
  • Bottles of water or good cups with straws for easy access during nursing. Keep them stashed around the house!

Healing items for mama:

  •  Rice bag or heating pad for after pains. (And its true what they say, after pains get stronger after each baby!)
  • Witch hazel (Add to your Peri bottle to soothe angry tissue and stitches. You can use to make your own cooling pads, or you can purchase Tucks.)
  • Lavender essential oil. Add to the Peri bottle when you rinse, and the oil will help to heal any tears and help prevent infection.
  • Aloe, straight from an aloe plant! Will help sooth stitches. (Can you tell I've dealt with some nasty tearing?)
  • A boppy  pillow or hemorrhoid ring, because sitting on your sore bottom can be torture. As often as you can, lay down. Nurse on your side lying down or reclined. If you need to sit up for visits, don't be afraid to keep them short.
  • Earth Mama Angel Baby has a great line of products, including Happy Bottom spray, Postpartum Bath Herbs, and nipple cream. I loved them with my second baby! The bottom spray was heaven on stitches, and  the bath herbs can pull double duty. Save the liquid for your Peri bottle and use the herbal pack as a warm or cold compress, or use as a typical sitz bath.
  •  Padsicles! Ice packs feel awesome in those first swollen days and a padsicle can help with both swelling and irritation. Check out this recipe here:
  • If you had your placenta encapsulated, break those babies out! They'll start to help with healing and replacing lost nutrients.
  • Have extra large granny panties, in dark colors, because leaks are bound to happen. I suggest having a larger size to accommodate the large pads and ice packs in the early days after birth.
  • Have super comfy jammies. I had no shame and bought extra large sweat pants. I just needed comfort and room to heal; I really didn't care about being cute. (I may still have some of these in my drawer. A girl has to hold on to some things for a Maryland winter.)


  • Have some nursing tanks on hand, but in my humble opinion hold off on buying nursing bras until baby is born and nursing is established. I was shocked by how much my breasts changed. We are talking three cup sizes! Wait and see what your milk does before you go to the trouble of buying bras.
  • Have a good breast pump and parts ready to roll. You don't want to be sterilizing parts while engorged. (Ask me how I know.) if you're using a pump from a previous baby, ask for new parts from your hospital. My lactation consultant gave me a bag with new tubing, flanges, etc. for free! This is also a good time to make sure bottles, nipples and pacifiers are cleaned and ready for use.
  • This is where all the food prep will come in handy! Eat and a drink a ton, more than you think you might need to. Your body is doing a lot of work in repairing and also making milk for baby.

For Baby:

  • Besides all the usual items for baby, I suggest having a carrier or wrap for those newborn days. I love the maya wrap or a ring sling to help keep them snuggled while you keep your hands free.
  • Sleeping arrangements for baby to be close by, whether in a co-sleeper, bassinet, or pack n play, keep baby in the room with you. Everyone will sleep easier.

For the home:

  • Netflix. If you don't have it already, do it. There will be days where you will be nursing the baby non-stop on the couch. Binge watch and rest!
  •  Set up baby station baskets around the house. Any where you'll be spending time with baby, but also in places like your bedroom. Include a change of clothes, diapers, wipes, easy open  snacks, bottle of water, breast pads, toy/book to entertain an older sibling, and a magazine or book for you. I often found myself, “stuck”, under a nursing and napping baby while starving and thirsty. Having these in reach made things very easy. I felt like I had anything I could need within easy reach, without having to go up and down stairs for items. I seriously just used whatever baskets I had on hand around the house.

What was helpful for your family in the weeks following birth?



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Finding a Mama tribe, a MOPs testimonial

Before being a stay at home mom, before being a doula, I was a zookeeper. I loved my job. I worked with great people, and I got to be around amazing animals every day. I poured myself into my job. I came in early, I stayed late. I brought projects and research home a lot. But when I got pregnant I knew I couldn't do both. I couldn't be the keeper I was and be the mom I wanted to be too. Plus, we couldn't afford daycare. It would have been my entire salary for my baby to be in daycare. With no family around, we didn't have a lot of options.


So I made my plans, worked up until a few days before my due date. My co-workers understood when I called and let them know I wasn't returning. My manager was sad. (She was the best boss ever. I mean it.) I was sad to leave, but knew it was the best choice for our family. In some ways, I was ready to leave some of the stresses of my job behind and start a new chapter.


My daughter was born, and I was a full-time mom. With no clue what I was doing. FB groups helped, my doula, Julie Grove, was a godsend. (I seriously texted her at 3 am with a plugged milk duct. She was up with her baby too thankfully.) I felt adrift. I wasn't, “Jessica the Zookeeper”, everyone knew, and I felt like I fell down the proverbial rabbit hole of breastfeeding, diapering and sleepless nights. My friends tried to understand and were loving, but it's not the same understanding as someone who's in the same part of motherhood as you are. I seriously didn't know who I was without my job. What did it mean to be Jessica the Mom?

Who knew you could feel this tired?

Who knew you could feel this tired?


Along came MOPs (Mothers of Preschoolers).  My neighbor, Mandy, told me about it and gave me the time of the next meeting. It sounded great; other moms, hot food and coffee, and both of us out of the house.


I managed to get there about a month later, and I was crazy early. I think I was the first person in the parking lot. When leaders came to the church to open and set up, I was welcomed and congratulated on my baby. I met so many moms; homeschooling moms, working moms, new moms and veteran moms. Someone offered to hold Elena for me so I could eat. People were nice. I felt welcomed. I thought, “This could be good.”

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Four years later and MOPs Thursday's are my favorite days of the month. We have friends, we have support. These women have helped shape me as a mom and help me get comfortable in my new role.


Best lessons from MOPS:  it's okay to do things differently, forget cleaning your house, and you are the mom your kids need. Whatever that looks like. I'm not Jessica the Zookeeper, I'm Jessica the friend. They've seen me sleep deprived and melting down with my toddler. They have brought meals for my freezer after I had our second baby. We know each other's houses well. It's usually well established to help yourself to anything. Coffee is always on. (And when it's been especially rough, wine.)

Coffee + Friends = Sanity

Coffee + Friends = Sanity


 They've seen me take a jump and grow into my doula role. They've even been Guinea pigs and let me attend their births. (Thank you Airlia!)


It's a place to be real. I get a break and hot coffee. My kids get to play with friends and make crafts. So why am I sharing this on my doula blog? Isn't this the place where you talk about placenta smoothies and hypnobirthing? (Of course!)


But readers, we weren't meant to do this alone. We can't do everything for everyone, all the time. Sometimes we need to fill our cup. Sometimes we need to reach out from our usual circle to someone else in the same boat as you. We need a tribe, to support and bolster us. Otherwise it's a pretty hard and lonely gig as a mom. Sometimes we need help, all different kinds.

Don't do it alone mama!

Don't do it alone mama!


I love mops and all that they do! To learn more about MOPs International or find a MOPs group near you, you can learn more here:




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What's in a doula bag?

As a doula, I'm there to serve you and your partner. I'll help you prep beforehand to iron out your options and what you'd like to see in your birth plan. The day of the birth I'll be prepped with a birthing ball and my bag. So here's the short and tall of what I keep in there:

  • Three rice bags (microwaved, the heat helps with pain in your back and round ligaments)
  • Ice packs (also helps with pain, but helps keep mom cool especially during pushing)
  • Sarong/rebozo (can be used for tons of cool stuff, everything from massage, gentle belly binding, help with squatting/positioning. Also pulling on the the fabric can help with pushing.)
  • Extra chapstick, hair ties, head band, gum and mouth wash. Just in case.
  • A fine tooth comb, can be used on pressure points along the palm of the hand. Also for effleurage along the back.
  • I carry only a few essential oils, but they're versatile power houses. I carry lemon, lavender, and peppermint. I don't like to put the oils on a mama, unless she uses them already. Labor is not the time or place to find out your skin breakouts with peppermint. Instead we can just put a few drops on a cotton ball or tissue. If the scent becomes bothersome we can easily and quickly flush it and the scent is gone.
    • Lemon: eases nausea, can help to emotionally energize
    • Peppermint: also helps with nausea, can help relieve a bladder by putting a few drops in to the toilet, can help with emotional balance.
    • Lavender: relaxing, can help to clear the mind and any anxiety or stress.
  • Tennis balls: used to massage and for counter pressure against hips and backs. We can use one at a time, or tie multiple in to a sock for a massage tool.
  • Lavender scented massage oil, coconut oil for massage.
  • Honey sticks (easy carbohydrate/glucose for when you need a boost, but may not want to eat.)
  • Snacks and extra food
  • Extra clothes
  • Extra large menstrual pads, in case you need them after your water breaks or during transport.







All my items are pretty simple. I want to be able to pack my bag quickly and get to my client. I also want to say my most important tool are my hands. Counter pressure, double hip squeezes, massage, and simple touch can be comforting during labor.

What would you have liked to have had at your birth?



Using Water During Labor and Birth

          Humans have an integral relationship with the element of water.  It runs through our veins, we are born of it, and it is necessary for our survival. We are drawn to it for escape, adventure, release, and cleansing. As a woman is preparing to give birth, water is a means of release from the weight of her growing belly, and the means to ease her aching muscles. Water is a great coping tool in labor, whether through a shower or tub. (For the sake of this paper we will only be mentioning the use of a tub.) The use of water in labor can aide in pain management by increasing relaxation, decreasing strain on muscles, and creating freedom of movement.


         The mother’s ability to relax her muscles during labor can affect the length of labor and the intensity of contractions. The more a mother fights and tenses her muscles the worse contractions may feel. Especially in active labor, the mother may need as many coping strategies as possible. The birthing tub offers a great respite, and a simple way to relax. The birthing tub is often called, "The midwife’s epidural”, for its effectiveness (Drichta, Owen p. 257). The warmth of the water helps to ease the pain felt from contractions, relaxing muscles of the pelvic floor and back, and creates a mental space that creates privacy (Drichta p. 258). It is recommended to maintain water temperature at 96-98 degrees. Using higher temperatures could cause increased blood pressure, dehydration and lethargy (Drichta p. 258). The bath is also deeply engrained as a place of mental release in daily routines. Our bathtubs are typically places of retreat to relax, and the mental association during labor holds true.


          Labor is a physically demanding process. From hours of walking, lunging, squatting, intense contractions, and the possibility of little sleep can make for a grueling marathon on the mother’s muscles. The warmth of the tub eases both the pain of the contractions and the work of her remaining muscles (Drichta p. 257). Being in a large tub that covers her belly, the mother is buoyant and freed from the gravity of dry land. Her pelvic muscles are relaxed and her cervix will continue to dilate, often with more ease as she relaxes. A mother that is able to relax and mentally release her tension, will have an easier time laboring than a mother that is fighting each contraction.


        Being weightless allows the mom to assume positions that could be too taxing on land, such as deep squats using the side of the pool, that will help baby to descend and turn. She's able to easily move from one position to the next in response to her labor, while remaining warm and relaxed. The ease of movement allows the mother to find her own rhythm and coping responses that she would not have had if she was limited to a bed. Her ability to move through labor gives the mother more control and autonomy during the birth. She's able to push in the position that suits her, catch her own baby, and bring baby to chest without outside help or others manipulating her body. She has full confidence and control.


          Relaxation, decreased strain on muscles and freedom of movement are gained for the birthing mother with the use of water during labor. The three work together as a pain management strategy, addressing both mental and physical tension that could hinder a birth. The birthing tub is used at its greatest advantage during late stage active labor throughtransition. It is recommended that for every hour spent in the tub, the mother spends at least thirty minutes out of the tub. This is to ensure that contractions do not slow down, as can sometimes happen. Often contractions may just feel less intense, but are still actively working. According to Water BirthInternational, “Getting back in the water after thirty minutes will reactivate the chemical and hormonal process, including a sudden and often marked increase in oxytocin.” (Harper p. 2) As with other labors, hydration is of the utmost importance. Keep a drink with a straw nearby so the mother can drink at will. The birth can be completed in the water as well, depending on location (some hospitals only allow laboring in the tub) and as long as the labor is not having any complications (ex:meconium, shoulder dystocia).



                                                     Works Cited

Drichta, Jane E., CPM and Owen, Jodilyn, CPM. The Essential Homebirth Guide for Families Planning or Considering Birthing at Home. 2003. Simon and Schuster.


Harper, Barbara. "Guidelines for Safe Waterbirth.”Waterbirth International. p. 2



Yoga During Pregnancy

Pregnancy brings up a lot of changes for the mother to be. Her body can feel foreign with hormone surges changing everything from her taste buds to her pelvic ligaments. Her mind can be bogged down with worries regarding the pregnancy and coming birth. Her spirit can be tired and troubled. Never has a woman needed more support physically, mentally, and spiritually then when she is pregnant. Since the rise of yoga practice in the West, the poses and meditation have been adjusted to pregnancy, creating a genre of yoga known as prenatal yoga. This particular yoga variation can aid in maintaining balance in the body and mind through adapted toning poses. Prenatal yoga promotes proper posture and relaxation, creating a supportive outlet for the pregnant practitioner.

              Toning poses encourage movement and flexibility, which is beneficial during a time that can become cumbersome to move and joints can become painful. Child’s pose, Cat-Cow, and supported Butterfly pose can ease backache caused by the shifting in the spinal column. Due to changes in weight, the counter balance of the body is pulled forward (Silverstone p.108). By maintaining muscle tone through yoga, the body's ability to protect the core is increased, relieving typical pregnancy muscle aches. The movements of yoga are balancing to the body, and can ease other pregnancy issues. Performing balancing stretches on each side of the body promotes circulation throughout the extremities, and can improve sleep if performed before bed, alleviate morning sickness, and prepare for birth (Silverstone p. 81, 123).

              Proper posture is a main tenant in yoga practice, starting with, “good alignment of the spine from a solid leg base and relaxed stretching intensified by deep breathing.” (Freedman p.12) By practicing and utilizing proper posture throughout the day, balance in the spine and pelvis is maintained. The muscles of the pelvis create a hammock for the womb, and can affect presentation. (Freedman p. 8) Fetal positioning can make a huge difference in how labor develops. A baby facing in the posterior position in the womb may have a slow descent, and can also cause painful back labor (Spinning Babies). Poor fetal position can also cause very slow dilation, often resulting in unnecessary interventions.

Photo by piranka/iStock / Getty Images
Photo by piranka/iStock / Getty Images

             The ability to cope through painful or stressful labor can make a huge difference in the birth experience for the mother; feeling overwhelmed and helpless versus calm and ritualized. By practicing meditation and deep relaxation in yoga throughout her pregnancy, the mother is essentially teaching  her mind and muscles how to relax. An individual can't expect to go through the paces of everyday life without mindfully taking the time out to fully relax the body and empty the mind. Without regular practice, the mother to be cannot expect to relax while laboring (Mongan p.119). By creating a peaceful mental space, both mother and baby can birth together in a relaxed confident atmosphere. The mother knows her body, has tuned into her baby, and can relax and go inward; an ability that is key to letting labor and birth progress.  

              By practicing prenatal yoga regularly, mothers can address pregnancy related issues and prepare for birth through postures, regular meditation and relaxation. By connecting to her body and her baby, the practitioner can have a more enjoyable and healthy pregnancy.

Works Cited

The Kind Mama: A Simple Guide to Supercharged Fertility, A Radiant Pregnancy, a Sweeter Birth, and a Healthier More Beautiful Beginning. Alicia Silverstone. 2014. Rodale Books.  P. 81, 108, 123.

Yoga for Pregnancy, Birth, and Beyond. Francoise Barbira Freedman. 2004.  DK. P. 8, 12.  

Hypnobirthing: The Mongan Method. Marie F. Mongan M.Ed. M.Hy. 2005. Health Communications.

P. 119. “Maternal Positioning”. 2016.



Birth Balls, Best thing ever

Birth balls, commonly recognized as exercise balls, have been used for many purposes over the last ten years, including physical therapy, abdominal exercise, and most recently to aid pregnancy and labor. Its shape and durability allow it to be used by a variety of weights and heights, and in multiple positions. Birth balls can aide in pregnancy and labor to improve fetal positioning, fetal descent and maternal comfort.

Fetal positioning can make a huge difference in how labor develops. A baby facing in the posterior position in the womb may have a slow descent, and can also cause painful back labor (Spinning Babies). Poor fetal position can also cause very slow dilation, often resulting in unnecessary interventions. In some cases, the baby may have a difficult time turning and become stuck, requiring surgery or forceps delivery (Spinning Babies). Fetal positioning can be improved by having good posture. Often pregnant women are sitting on cushy couches or less than ergonomic driver seats, causing poor posture (Spinning Babies). By sitting and resting on the ball, the posture is upright and forward leaning, engaging abdominal muscles while relaxing the pelvis area. The back is comforted and strengthened by ball use, supporting the pelvis. With proper alignment and a relaxed pelvic area, the baby will have room to position properly, and begin to drop into the pelvis (Spinning Babies). It also encourages the baby to settle into an anterior position that is optimal for labor (Spinning Babies). Often a posterior baby can be encouraged to turn during labor by sitting on the ball.

Fetal descent is defined as entrance of the presenting portion (usually the head) into the birth canal. Descending takes time and hard work from both mom and baby.The use of gravity and squatting positions are helpful in this process, but can be taxing on the mother’s muscles over a long labor. The birth ball is a great tool in this scenario, as it allows mom to sit in a squatting position, allowing the use of gravity and an open pelvis to bring the baby down, but also allows for rest. The mother can also lean forward while sitting, and receive a massage or counter pressure. The ball can also be hugged while deeply squatting on the floor. It allows mom a greater balance and ease in the position, one that can be utilized in the pushing stage.

The birth ball is a great comfort tool for mothers in labor. It allows the mother to rest while still engaging an open pelvis. The birth ball can be a great break from walking, while still remaining active (Birth Arts Handbook p.187). It allows the mother to do pelvic circles and rhythmic movements that help her ease the pain of contractions. These movements often help the baby to navigate the turns in the pelvis before crowning (Birth Arts International p.187).  The birth ball also creates a counter pressure against the perineum and buttocks that can ease the sensations of early transition, which can be a difficult time for the mother. Having the birth ball as a comfort tool the mother can find a coping mechanism and rhythm through her contractions. By having support and a rhythm to help her cope, the mother can navigate her labor and have a mental place to return to when labor gets hard.

By utilizing the versatility of the birth ball, a mother can improve fetal position, while encouraging fetal descent and increasing comfort during labor. By improving these aspects of birth, unnecessary intervention can be avoided, as well as the use for drugs. This can greatly improve outcomes for mothers and babies, especially in a hospital setting where the mother is out of her comfort zone.

Works Cited

Birth Arts International, Certified Doula Education Program. Demetria Clark. 2000-2015. P.187



What will my doula do at my birth?

So what will my doula do at my birth?


I will encourage you.

I will come as soon as you need me. Day or night.

I will remind you of what you felt was important in your birth plan.

I will help you modify those plans when's thing change.

I will massage your shoulders and back.

I will show your partner how to do a hip squeeze when you have back labor.

I will help you find positions that will help you feel comfortable.

I will heat up rice packs and keep ice packs on standby.  

I will feed you and your partner. You guys have to stay nourished.

I will bring essential oils if you'd like them. Peppermint is great for nausea.

I will bring a bag of tricks and a birthing ball. That ball is the best thing ever.

I will support where you want to birth.

I will politely but firmly ask for another nurse if you have Atila the Hun on shift at the hospital.

I will remind you that you can do this when things get tough. Because you already are!


Birth is hard work, but you can do it!


 I will help you with everything I have, because families deserve to be supported and loved on.


This is what I want Living Heart Doula to be about.

This is my pledge to you, as your doula.

You got this mama.

You got this mama.